Own up to your own life. It’s easy to blame everything and anything else for why you aren’t who you are supposed to be. Half the time you’d be fully justified too. Don’t do it though, take 100% responsibility for your own life.
You can’t always control what happens to you, but you can always control how you choose to respond to what happened.
I reckon it’s how two sons who grew up from an abusive background end up on two different paths, while one became a prisoner the other became a preacher. One son owns, while the other son is owned.
Which one are you?